How To Win Friends and Influence People

I am extremely excited about the lesson I am going to be sharing with you today. Early during the year, I stumbled across an amazing book called "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. This book has not only helped me better my relationships with my family and friends, it has broadened my understanding of the nature in which people operate. Winning friends and influencing people is going to be one of the key components that you will need in other to have a successful and affluent life. Even though these lessons may seem easy and practical, please do not fall in the trap of neglecting their importance. You don't have to get it all at once, please be patient with yourself. Make the commitment to put each idea to the test one day at a time; I promise you  that the results and feedback you will get will be phenomenal.

                                          How To Win Friends and Influence People

Due to the lengthy nature of this subject, I have only chosen three topics to elaborate on. If you like the lesson's I share with you today, I will encourage you to go to your local book store or click on the link below (http://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people?store=allproducts&keyword=how+to+win+friends+and+influence+people) to get yourself a copy. I have also uploaded an audio book at the bottom of the page.

Never Criticize any one

Out of the whole lesson today, if you were to only read this part and stop, I promise you that it will have been worth your time and energy. Because most people never bother to understand the effects of criticism, they end up hurting others, and  sometimes destroying good relationships. To grasp this lesson, you must first come to understand that humans are emotional beings. We act and respond our to environment by the way we feel. It is only natural that when we feel as though someone is criticizing or attacking us, we become resentful to try and defend ourselves. You will never be able to correct or win someone over if your first instinct is to always find something wrong in what they say or do. I urge to make a change in your life today. Try to find the good in others instead of criticizing them and they would love you for it. Practice this principle with yourself; whenever you feel like criticizing your actions, remember that criticism will only do you more harm than good.

"I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism" 
Charles M. Schwab

Become Genuinely interested in people 

One of the key to winning friends and influencing people is to become genuinely interested in people.  When you become interested in others, they also become interested in you. This lesson is so simple, but yet it is one of the most neglected lessons of all. One of the most practical way of showing someone that you are interest in what he or she has to say, is by becoming a good listener. One of the greatest human needs, is the need to feel important; the need to feel like someone cares. If you want people to automatically gravitate to you, show them that you genuinely care about them.

Learn how to arise enthusiasm in others

I have personally come to appreciate the power of arising enthusiasms in people. I have built and strengthened so many relationships in my life, by using this concept. The most practical way to arise enthusiasm is someone, is by speaking in terms of what interest them. During a conversation, practice taking yourself out of the equation. Speak in terms of the other person's passions, goals, and aspirations. The enthusiasm that you would build in them will be astonishing, and they would  love and appreciate you for it. The key to learning how to win friends and influence people is understanding that the greatest human desire, is the desire to feel Important.